Paul, thanks for taking time to read and respond. I really honed in on what you said towards the end about it being more about the “perceived” vulnerability of the fearful person. So I wonder, what is it that these men who respond in this manner are so fearful of? What do they stand to lose? That’s a rhetorical question, of course, and I have my own ideas. But I agree with your point re: impact of this overall sense of discomfort or fear. Where I struggle is how it seems to be a one-way street — while I am open to dialogue and hearing the perspectives and lived experiences of others, even if I can’t relate or I disagree, it’s a courtesy less frequently returned to me.